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Top 10 Sex Safety Tips for Exploring Your Wild Side

Sex is a contact sport unlike any other. I’m sure many images are going through your mind. And I’m not talking about tripping on the rug before you get into bed or hitting your elbow on the night stand. The idea of wearing a helmet is necessary for more than just the head. You want to be safe in a number of ways when it comes to sex.

Here are my Top 10 Sex Safety Tips for Exploring Your Wild Side…and for avoiding the E.R.

Just to recap:

  1. Always wear a condom! It’s basic, but it’s worth repeating. Wearing a condom helps you avoid unwanted STDs like herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia just to name a few.
  2. Never put anything on or around your penis that you may not be able to remove, like a metal constriction device.
  3. Never stick anything into the urethra opening (i.e., where you void) because it’s probably not coming out on its own.
  4. Don’t put anything in your bottom that you might need a doctor to remove—that’s a tough ER conversation.
  5. Sex involves a lot of friction, so use lubricant to avoid chafes and abrasions.
  6. Heavily scented soaps, lotions, conditioners and shampoos can be very irritating to the urethra so avoid them when alone or with a partner. Don’t turn your “burning desire” into “that burning feeling.”
  7. For those of you with foreskin, make sure it is pulled over the head of the penis because it can get stuck and when it does it’s not always pretty.
  8. If you’re going to use penile injections (which in and of themselves are very effective), make sure you inject correctly so you don’t end up with an erection that won’t go away or a curvature of the penis.
  9. Be careful which way you thrust and the positions you choose because you can break your penis.
  10. For those who enjoy pain—whips, chains and heels might add drama…but can also cause severe trauma!

At the End of the Day, Safety First

If you’re committed, the safest thing is to be with the one you love or at least the one you’re with. And if you’re committed and you’re going to be with someone else, be extra careful. Regardless, suit up (wear a condom), be safe and have fun!


Sexual safety will help you avoid injury and other health issues in the future, but sometimes sexual problems can occur despite your best efforts. If you think you have a condition that requires attention, please see a doctor. To see Dr. Zeitlin: